Create What You Want From Life

One of the reasons you and I experience unhappiness and dissatisfaction is that we do not take time to determine how we must behave to get what we say we want from life.

For example, we say we want good relationships.  However, simply stating we want good relationships is not enough, because to actually create what we say we want requires determining the specifics of what our involvement must be.

To have good relationships, whether with a life-partner, parent, child, relative, co-worker, friend or acquaintance, requires making a conscious agreement with ourselves to consistently behave positively. We agree to treat other people with respect. We agree to communicate clearly; to speak kindly and listen intently.  We agree to be honest and open.  We agree to be compassionate and understanding.  We agree to maintain a peaceful way of life.  We agree to be trustworthy and to forgive.  We agree to make time to play.  We agree to be responsible and dependable. We agree to readily support other people’s desire to express creatively.  We agree to encourage others to grow their individuality and unique spirituality.

While there are more aspects to good relationships than listed above, we now have a better overall picture of the fundamental behaviors required, on both sides, to actually create what we say we want. And, by taking time to really understand what good relationships are we learn what negative relationships look like as well so we can set boundaries with those whose idea of relationship differs from ours.  For instance, identifying our desire for a life-long relationship with a spouse or partner to be monogamous allows us to exclude those who practice infidelity. Or knowing we like animals allows us to question the reality of having a good relationship with someone who dislikes our furry friends.  Or we value honesty and clear communication then we must pause when considering a relationship with someone who is deceitful and non-communicative.

You are absolutely worthy of having a peaceful life, when you are peaceful.  If you want financial security, save and spend less than you make.  If you want physical fitness, make regular exercise and eating with healthy awareness part of everyday life.  If you want freedom from fear, look within to courageously identify and change what is keeping you fearful.  Whatever you want from life is possible when you assume responsibility for determining how you must consistently behave to create what it is you say you want.